How to Develop Powerful Beliefs

Are your beliefs sound?

That’s not a rhetorical question. It’s an important question that you should take the time to evaluate if you want to be more, do more or have more.

Because as Napoleon Hill put it, “No one’s ready for a thing, until they believe that they can acquire it. The state of mind must be belief and not mere hope or wish.”

So if you want more money, become aware of the beliefs that are blocking you from the flow of money in your life.
If you wish you were creative, ask yourself where you got the belief that you are not creative and remember that you are expressing yourself creatively every moment of every day.

If you want a loving partner, take a close look at what you think and feel about yourself, such as your worthiness and your self-image.

In the video, Bob says that our beliefs about anything are based upon our evaluation, and we are free to reevaluate any of them at any time.

So courageously begin to analyze your beliefs, one at a time. Ask yourself if you have good and sound reasons for each one. As you do this, you will find that many of your strongest convictions have absolutely no foundation. You will realize that some of your beliefs are totally absurd.

As you get rid of unfounded beliefs and begin to evaluate who you truly are, you will find your belief about your own ability to achieve any goal will change dramatically.

I recommend that you analyze your beliefs regularly … it will be like mental house cleaning.

The truth is you can do anything, but you’ve got to believe it. Without belief, it is not going to happen.

Why?

Because the thoughts you internalize set up the vibration, the vibration causes the action and the action causes the reaction. It’s the action/reaction that creates the result. You’ve got to believe it can be!

Before I end this post, let me remind you of another quote from Napoleon Hill that Bob shared:

“Remember, no more effort is required to aim high in life, to demand abundance and prosperity, than is required to accept misery and poverty.”

Why continue to struggle to play small when you can believe that you will have all that you want and let your belief help create the fact?

What are you waiting for?

Coach Christopher
CEO of Life Someday LLC

Show Your Gratitude to Others with Compliments

Don’t you love to receive compliments? It’s great for your self-esteem and just plain feels good to hear someone else’s respect or admiration. Those few words lighten your moods and give you the strength to push forward with you head held high.

Compliments reinforce that you’re doing something right and your efforts are being appreciated. It only takes a moment to notice something small about someone but those few words can certainly make a difference in that person’s day.  

Compliment Your Family

Showing your appreciation to those you love has a dual purpose: it shows how grateful you are to have them in your life while at the same time acknowledging the special work they’ve done.

Here are a few examples of ways to express your gratitude:

  • “Thanks for clearing the dishes. You did a great job!”
  • “I really appreciate your help with dinner tonight! It was a wonderful meal.”
  • “I am so thankful for your love and support. You’ve really helped me get through a tough day.”

Children and adults alike are encouraged to help more if they are complimented and receive positive acknowledgement. Hearing compliments on a regular basis also teaches children how to appreciate the people in their lives.

Compliment Your Coworkers

There are two types of managers in business: one who appreciates their workers for a job well done and another who just expects the job to get done without any acknowledgement. Obviously we all need to treat each other with the respect and dignity we deserve!

Here are some examples of how to express gratitude at work:

  • “Thanks for staying late today. I’ll be sure to tell the boss how hard you’ve been working lately.”

  • “The client really loved the report you wrote.”

  • “I really appreciate you taking the time out to help me with this. It means a lot to me!”

Adding a personal touch to the office by giving compliments can be a huge motivator. Your colleagues will trust and respect you far more than anyone else in the office.

Compliment Strangers

In today’s society very few people take the time to strike up a conversation with a total stranger. We have to remember that people are brought into our lives everyday for a variety of reasons, and you can deeply affect someone’s mood just by being nice to them.

Of course, you probably shouldn’t divulge your entire life’s story the first time you meet someone, but what you can do is notice something good about a person and tell them. Show your gratitude for meeting this person because this experience just might teach you something new about yourself.

Here are a few examples of things you can look for to give an honest compliment about:

  • Is the person a sharp dresser?
  • Is he a genuinely nice person to others?
  • Are the person’s children very well-behaved?
  • Did you see the person do a kind act for someone else?

The key to expressing your gratitude is opening your eyes to seeing the simple gifts in your day. By paying attention to the actions of those around you, you’ll not only help others gain confidence, but you’ll become known as the trustworthy go-to guy or go-to gal.

Make a goal to compliment at least one person each and every day. You’ll start appreciating the small things in life and you’ll brighten someone’s day at the same time.

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Prioritize your time, energy, and focus.

Use the following affirmations to help you have better thoughts about how you spend your time.  Thoughts lead to actions and actions create our results.

I know that my results in life are dependent on how I spend my time. I am very choosy about how I spend my time each day. I know what is important to me, and I spend my time accordingly.

I know what I want to accomplish, and I spend time pursuing these goals. I know that if I spend my time more effectively, my life changes for the better. I avoid wasting my time.

I maximize the amount of energy I have each day. I know the type of diet that gives me the most energy and vigor, and I follow it. I get enough sleep each night, so I have the energy I need for the next day. I manage my energy wisely.

I am focused. I am clear on my objectives and can focus on them for long periods of time. This ensures that my time and energy are being used most effectively.

By prioritizing my time, energy, and focus, I am guaranteeing my success. I am learning how to control these three items better each day.

Today, I am giving extra attention to how I spend my time, energy, and focus. I am taking my productivity to a new level. I am excited by what I expect to accomplish today.

Self-Reflection Questions:

  1. What is my biggest goal for the next 5 years? What can I focus on today to help me achieve that goal?
  2. How much sleep do I need each night to have the most energy during the day?
  3. What are the major distractions in my life? What can I do about them?

Why Does Success Elude You? Consider These Top 11 Reasons

Most of us aren’t experiencing the level of success we desire. It’s easy to see what successful people do. However, it can be challenging to notice the things successful people avoid. Avoiding the common success mistakes improves your odds of attaining higher levels of achievement.

Avoid these common mistakes on the road to success:

  1. Using socially acceptable excuses to quit. It’s easy to come up with 20 good reasons to quit before you reach success. Socially acceptable excuses are those your peers will best understand. That’s the easy way out. Refuse to fall into this trap.

  2. Not having habits that support your goals. Your results in life are a reflection of your habits. You’re moving either closer or further from success each day. Effective habits ensure that you make consistent progress.

  3. Relying on luck. In an effort to avoid work or responsibility, many of us do the minimum necessary to have a chance to be successful and rely on a little luck to carry us the rest of the way.
  • A more effective alternative is to have such a good plan and do so much that you’d have to be incredibly unlucky to fail. Borrow the military’s idea of overwhelming force. Bring more resources to the fight than you think you’d ever need.
  • Not knowing where you’re going. Success requires a known endpoint. You can’t accidentally end up on the summit of Mt. Everest. Any significant achievement requires that you clearly understand your objective. Avoid just working hard. Work hard with a purpose.

  • Lacking a realistic timeline. In your enthusiasm, be careful about being too aggressive with the timeline when you set a goal. It’s easy to overestimate what can be accomplished in a certain time period. If you overestimate what you can do in the short term, you’re likely to become discouraged.

  • Giving up too soon. This is the biggest reason for a lack of success. If you never quit, you can’t fail. Sooner or later, things will work out. Keep going.

  • You’re afraid of success. It seems like you’d have to be crazy to be afraid of success, but success isn’t 100% positive. There’s more responsibility. More people are watching you. There can be a certain amount of stress associated with success. Just remember that being unsuccessful is uncomfortable, too.

  • You’re afraid of failure. Failing can be hard on the ego. The most successful people have failed the most. In all likelihood, most people won’t even notice the failures on your way to success.

  • Avoiding full responsibility. Your success and failures are your responsibility. It doesn’t matter that your parents aren’t supportive or that your friend won’t loan you $500. When you blame others, you admit to yourself that you’re not in control of the situation. Take control by accepting responsibility.

  • Being pessimistic. A negative attitude brings negative results. When you expect a poor outcome, you won’t do the work necessary for success. Why would you even try? Keep your mind filled with positive thoughts.

  • You can’t handle being uncomfortable. Every time you try something new, there will be a level of discomfort. You have to deal with uncomfortable feelings all along the way. Learning to work through these feelings is part of achieving success.

Success is a twisting road with many obstacles. It’s easy to become discouraged. The most successful people know what they want and have a high level of persistence. Avoid the common reasons for a lack of success and you’ll reach your goals.

Self-Awareness: Why it Matters

What is self-awareness? The dictionary defines self-awareness as “knowledge and awareness of your own personality or character.” When you’re self-aware, you have an accurate and clear understanding of your personality, strengths, weaknesses, and beliefs. You know what makes you tick. Self-awareness also includes an understanding of how others perceive you.

Lacking self-awareness can lead to a very confusing and frustrating life!

Your level of self-awareness can influence your relationships, career, and happiness:

  1. Self-awareness is necessary for taking control of your life. The direction of your life is determined by your thoughts, beliefs, emotions, and reactions. Self-awareness is the principle way of understanding and manipulating these things.
  • Self-awareness highlights faulty beliefs and emotional reactions that stand in your way and gives you the power to make adjustments.

  • Self-awareness illuminates the real reasons for past failures and challenges. We often dismiss our failures as bad luck or a lack of proper timing. It’s much more likely that you failed to perceive the situation, others, and yourself accurately. It’s much easier to see the reason behind relationship, work, and other struggles when you can look at yourself clearly.
  • Do you consistently struggle at work or in your relationships? It’s only logical to conclude that you’re doing something ineffectively.

  • Those who lack self-awareness are puzzled by their negative outcomes or blame others exclusively.

  • Self-awareness is a critical quality for leaders. One study concluded that a high degree of self-awareness was the best predictor of success for executives.
  • Executives that have an understanding of their weaknesses are able to build a team composed of members that fill those weaknesses.

  • A lack of self-awareness puts a limit on your leadership abilities.

Self-awareness is the foundation for personal progress. Without it, any personal development efforts will be severely hampered. Building greater self-awareness won’t happen overnight, but it can be developed.

How to Develop Self-Awareness

Build your self-awareness one step at time:

  1. Write your own manifesto. Think about and then document your views on life, your goals, and your intentions. You might be surprised by what you write. This is a great first step for understanding yourself and your beliefs.

  2. Make a list of your strengths and weaknesses. How do you know? Are you certain? Avoid jumping to conclusions. You may have always believed that you’re a hard worker, but are you? To whom are you comparing yourself? Provide yourself with proof before you make any decisions.

  3. What would others say about you? Consider how your partner, children, friends, family, co-workers, and boss would describe you. What would they suggest you improve about yourself? Then ask them and see how accurate you are. Do you know how others perceive you? Find out how perceptive you are.

  4. Meditate. Meditation is all about developing a better awareness of the present moment and yourself. Meditation is an ideal activity for enhancing self-awareness.
  • Meditate at least once each day. Spend the rest of the day paying attention to yourself, others, and your surroundings. You can develop a higher degree of self-awareness by just paying attention.

  • Question yourself throughout the day. “What am I attempting to achieve?” “What emotions am I currently feeling and why?” “What are the people around me feeling?”

Self-awareness is the cornerstone of success and self-improvement. Without self-awareness, the knowledge you possess can’t be applied effectively. It’s necessary to understand your beliefs, habits, strengths, and weaknesses to make a personal change. Avoid assuming that you’re self-aware. Give it some time and thought.

Life is easier when you’re self-aware. You can start building your self-awareness, and reaping the benefits, today!

I prioritize my time, energy, and focus.

I know that my results in life are dependent on how I spend my time. I am very choosy about how I spend my time each day. I know what is important to me, and I spend my time accordingly.

I know what I want to accomplish, and I spend time pursuing these goals. I know that if I spend my time more effectively, my life changes for the better. I avoid wasting my time.

I maximize the amount of energy I have each day. I know the type of diet that gives me the most energy and vigor, and I follow it. I get enough sleep each night, so I have the energy I need for the next day. I manage my energy wisely.

I am focused. I am clear on my objectives and can focus on them for long periods of time. This ensures that my time and energy are being used most effectively.

By prioritizing my time, energy, and focus, I am guaranteeing my success. I am learning how to control these three items better each day.

Today, I am giving extra attention to how I spend my time, energy, and focus. I am taking my productivity to a new level. I am excited by what I expect to accomplish today.

Self-Reflection Questions:

  1. What is my biggest goal for the next 5 years? What can I focus on today to help me achieve that goal?
  2. How much sleep do I need each night to have the most energy during the day?
  3. What are the major distractions in my life? What can I do about them?

7 Mental Blocks That Limit Success

Becoming successful is much more about your beliefs than it is about your current skills and talents. Recognizing the mental blocks that limit your success might be the most important step you can take on your journey to a successful life. Mental blocks are insidious. They begin at a young age and quickly become the norm.

We become so used to their existence that we fail to question them. We learn to limit ourselves and blindly accept the criticisms of our family members, teachers, peers, and even strangers.

Learn to recognize these mental blocks:

  1. Your self-doubt is limiting your ability to take action. The most successful people tend to overestimate their abilities at first. However, studies have shown that these same people eventually grow to meet their expectations. Have the courage to believe that you are capable. You’ll ultimately prove yourself correct.
  • Also consider that the most pessimistic of people are the most accurate when assessing their skill at a new task. They also finish behind all other groups in the long term. Be optimistic and you’ll come out ahead.

  • You refuse to get or accept help from others. Life is too short to gain the necessary knowledge and perform every task yourself. You can find others that have already been successful in your field of choice. Seek these experts out and get the help you require.

  • You think you lack the necessary education. The percentage of highly successful people who failed to complete high school is staggering. While a lack of education can prevent you from becoming a brain surgeon, it’s possible you already have all the education you require to be successful in other endeavors.

  • You think your competitors are better than you are. Studies have shown that we tend to underestimate ourselves and overestimate others. Consider the fact that you might be giving your competition more credit than they deserve! Examine your competition and improve upon their efforts. Otherwise, ignore them and get busy.

  • You believe that your goals aren’t achievable. If you’re sure you can’t be successful, you’ll never get started. Be objective with your goals. Are they really too challenging? Or are you failing to believe in your capabilities sufficiently?
  • It might be worthwhile to scale back your goals slightly until you feel more confident. You can always grow into your goals in the future.

  • You’re afraid to see your truth. It’s possible you’re nervous about discovering your shortcomings. It’s easy to maintain a little hope if you stay on the sidelines. After all, maybe you really do have what it takes. You haven’t done anything to prove yourself wrong yet.
  • Try your best and see what happens. You’re unlikely to be successful on the first attempt anyway. However, the second attempt will be better than the first. The third will be even more effective. Continue until you’ve attained success.

  • You believe that you lack the necessary time and money. Convenient excuses are tools of those that lack commitment. Successful people have started from every possible starting point. Some were wealthy. Others were very poor and had to work multiple jobs just to eat.
  • You can get started without financial resources.

  • You can find time if you desire to do so.

Mental blocks are common, but you’ll notice that your most successful acquaintances have the fewest mental blocks. You have a powerful ability to succeed if you can enhance your mental state. Examine yourself for the most common success blockers. Once you’re able to recognize them, you’re able to address them.

Stopping Negative Behaviors Before They Stop You

Do you have negative behaviors that you want to get a handle on? Whether it’s something you do to sabotage yourself or an action that annoys others, it’s important to examine the impact of what you’re doing.

Wouldn’t it be great if you could arrest your difficult behaviors before they spread negative karma all around you?

Try these techniques to stop engaging in troublesome behaviors before they become detrimental to your life:

  1. Claim the power you have to stop the actions that bother you. Look in the mirror and say it out loud: “Only I can stop (fill in the blank).” Then, vow to yourself to make a concerted effort to cease the actions.
  • Pay closer attention to what you’re doing. So much of what we do each day is done without aforethought. If you consciously focus your thoughts on any actions you’re about to take, you’ll have an increased chance of deleting the troublesome behaviors from your repertoire.

  • Slow down your thinking. When your mind starts racing, it’s your first clue that you might be about to take an action you may later regret. Take a deep breath and re-focus on a positive action, instead.

  • Identify situations, people, and events that trigger your negative behavior. For example, perhaps in social situations, you talk too much. You interrupt others, finish their sentences, and other people have little opportunity to talk. Take an honest look within yourself and your annoying behavior. When is it most likely to happen?

  • Decide what you’ll do instead.Make a plan for what you’ll do in place of the negative behaviors. For example, if you want to stop talking too much in a social situation, what could you do instead of speaking?

  • Keeping with this example, you could make the decision to “experiment” with listening to others, just to see what you can learn from them. You would talk less and practice listening each time you’re in a social situation. Later, ask yourself, “How did I do? How did it feel to listen instead of talk?”

  • Who knows what great things could happen from making a decision to cease your troublesome behavior!

  • Ask close friends and family members for their assistance in stopping the behavior. For example, tell your sister that you’re trying to stop interrupting people so much. Ask her to touch your elbow at the family reunion tomorrow each time she notices you interrupting. This way, you’ll have a cue to stop the behavior.

  • Say you’re sorry when you engage in the behavior, if it affects others. Staying with the example of talking too much, as soon as you realize you interrupted someone, say, “I’m sorry I interrupted you. Please do go on. I’m interested in what you were saying.”

  • Showing humility will help you learn to stop the old behavior and change it to a more effective action.

  • Seek expert guidance if you need it. If you’ve been working on your troublesome actions for a while and have had less success than you want in stopping them, asking a professional to assist you can be a big help.

It’s up to you to avoid behaviors that cause you difficulties or discourage people from wanting to spend time with you. Banish your unwanted behaviors for good by putting the above steps into action. Remember, only you have the capacity to stop your negative behaviors before they stop you!

6 Strategies That Help You Keep the Promises That You Make to Yourself

Can you trust yourself? How many times have you promised yourself you were going to save money, lose weight, or clean out the junk drawer in the kitchen? You’ve likely made thousands of promises to yourself and broken the majority of them.

You do this every day. It can be as simple as saying, “I’m going to get started on my work on the next commercial,” yet the commercial comes and goes, and you make a new deal with yourself.

This has consequences. You’re teaching yourself that you don’t have to take yourself seriously. You’re implicitly teaching yourself that it’s okay to let yourself down.

Trusting and believing yourself is important. After all, if you can’t trust yourself, whom can you trust?

Practice these techniques to keep your promises to yourself and add integrity to every part of your life:

  1. Use your past as a reference. If you’ve promised yourself that you were going to lose 50 pounds but came up short, it might be better to set a more reasonable goal. Losing 10 pounds five times is the same as losing 50 pounds all at once. Make reasonable promises to yourself.

  2. Put your promises on paper. Thoughts are a funny thing. They sort of feel real, but they sort of don’t. Writing them down is more concrete. Keep your written promises where you can see them regularly. Review them a couple of times each day.

  3. Ask yourself if you mean it and listen to the answer. Down deep, you know if you’re serious about your promises. After you make a promise to yourself, ask yourself if you really mean it. Listen to the answer you receive and respect it. If you’re not going to honor the promise you made to yourself, make another one.

  4. Change your beliefs about promises to yourself. Most of us are much better at keeping promises we make to others than we are at keeping promises we make to ourselves.

    1. Some part of you believes that it’s okay to let yourself down. If you believe that you matter as much as everyone else, this attitude won’t be acceptable to you.

  5. Accept the discomfort that comes from fulfilling your promises. Why don’t you keep a promise? It’s only because doing so is more uncomfortable than not doing it. So, it stands to reason that if you were better at dealing with discomfort,  you would keep more of your promises. When you’re feeling uncomfortable, be determined to work through it.

    1. Avoiding discomfort or confronting it is a habit. Build the habit that will serve you the best. Dealing with discomfort is among the most valuable skills you can build.

  6. What would you think of someone that made promises to you and broke them regularly? Would you date that person or call them your friend for long? You think less of yourself when you break a promise to yourself.

    1. You can see this by considering how you would think about someone else doing the same to you. You wouldn’t think much of them. That’s what you’re doing to your opinion of yourself. Nothing good comes of this. You might not notice it, since it’s happening every day.

Keeping promises to yourself is generally more important than keeping promises to others, yet we tend to approach life from the opposite perspective. The damage you do to your relationship with yourself affects every part of your life.

Treat yourself like you matter and respect the promises you make to yourself. The integrity you build with yourself will make you better at keeping all of the promises you make. It will expand into everything you do.

Today, I am laying the foundation for an amazing future.

I take actions today to enhance my life tomorrow. I have a long-term vision of my future, and I actively take steps to realize that vision.

I know that an amazing future requires planning, discipline, and patience. I am laying the foundation each day for my amazing future.

I have goals. I know the steps and actions necessary to make those goals a reality. I am able to keep my eyes on the future and to take those necessary steps each day.

It can be challenging to be so disciplined and patient, but I know it is worth the effort and inconvenience.

My amazing future is getting closer each day.

The future is coming quickly, and I am preparing myself. I am doing everything I need to do in order to deserve an amazing future. I am putting in the work and doing so with a smile on my face.

I have high expectations and I know they are being met.

I am excited by how hard I am working. I know I am being rewarded for my efforts. The foundation I am building can support everything I desire. The future is mine.

Today, I am securing my future with my thoughts and actions. I am taking the most important steps to reach my goals. I am laying the foundation for an amazing future.

Self-Reflection Questions:

  1. What is my ultimate vision for my life? What have I been doing to move toward that?
  2. What can I do today to ensure my life is better in the future?
  3. What are the greatest obstacles to living the life of my dreams?