How Does the Law of Cause and Effect Really Impact Your Life?

Many self-help gurus believe your thoughts alone are sufficient to bring about meaningful change in your life. Some even believe the universe can deliver your wishes to your front door if you merely ask in the proper manner. Maybe this is true, maybe not. But there is one law in the universe that works very reliably: the law of cause and effect. This idea is easy to prove.

If you drop something heavy over your foot, it will fall and hurt your foot. If you follow the directions accurately to make a cake, you’re guaranteed to receive a cake at the end. Even Buddhism covers the topic of cause and effect thoroughly.

The law of cause and effect may be the most universal law of all.

How the law of cause and effect can help you:

  1. Your actions are ultimately the controlling factors. This is great news. All you have to do is take the appropriate actions and you’ll get the results you desire. Thoughts can dictate your actions, but the power of your thoughts is only seen when you take action.

  2. Success and failure aren’t personal. If you bake a cake, the cake turns out the same, regardless of your education, skin color, religion, or favorite sports team. Mixing the proper ingredients in the proper amounts and baking for the proper duration at the proper temperature are the only factors that matter.
  • You aren’t doomed to be a failure at anything. If you follow the success recipe for any endeavor in life, you’ll be successful.

  • Most outcomes are quite logical. Over time, you reap what you sow. If you’re kind to people, you can expect that most people will be kind to you. Mistreating people on a regular basis yields different results.
  • Eating too many cakes brings obvious results, too.

  • Preparing and studying for exams brings good results. The failure to do so brings opposite results.

  • It doesn’t matter if you believe the universe is out to punish you. The outcome from your actions will still be the same.

All of this suggests that thoughts aren’t relevant. However, that’s not exactly true. While you can successfully bake a cake while holding thoughts that your cake will never bake properly, you won’t try if your thoughts are too negative. Having the appropriate thoughts makes the appropriate actions possible.

Negative thoughts can be a blocker to taking advantage of the law of cause and effect.

Making the law of cause and effect work for you:

  1. Understand the cause and effect relationships in your area of interest. What actions are most likely to lead to the results you desire? Do some research and be certain. Find the those who are knowledgeable in your area and ask questions.

  2. Take the appropriate actions. Remind yourself that if you take the proper actions, your results are guaranteed. Monitor your thoughts and ensure they’re not holding you back.

  3. Keep going. Consistently taking the actions that have led others to success will carry you to the same destination. Expect that success will take time. Trust that your actions will be enough. Perseverance is powerful.

Even if success has eluded you in the past, you can rely on the law of cause and effect to hold true. Focus on taking the actions that lead to your desired outcome. Remember, no one has ever followed a cake recipe and received an apple pie from their efforts.

You get the results you deserve. Avoid letting someone fool you into believing that wishful thinking will hand you a cake!

How to Live Life With ZERO Regrets… And Love Every Minute!

Are you living with regret? Have you done things in the past you wish you’ve done differently?

Do these thoughts sound familiar to you:

  • How I wish I hadn’t broken up with him…
  • What a bad decision that was…
  • If only I had spent more time with my kids…
  • Now it’s too late…

Regret is a sad and negative emotion. Even though we know we can’t change the past, it still pulls at our heartstrings.

If we don’t know how to deal with regret in positive ways, it can negatively affect the rest of our lives. It can be extremely difficult to move on in life when we spend our time regretting the past.

The good news is that there are things you can do to help prevent regret in the first place. If you should find yourself feeling regretful, there are also ways to overcome those feelings. You’ll find plenty of tips in this eBook to help you live a regret-free life.

Let your Priorities Guide You

One of the best ways to make decisions you won’t regret is to let your priorities guide you. Whenever you’re faced with a decision, big or small, determine which option fits best with what’s most important to you in the big picture.

The option that’s most closely in alignment with your priorities, beliefs, and values will likely be the best decision for YOU.

The key words are: best decision for you.

Someone else may choose a different option, but you don’t need to worry about what others think is the best – their opinion comes from their own wants and needs.

If you choose what’s best for someone else, you will be the one who regrets it. But if you choose according to your own priorities, regret is rarely a result. When you use this strategy to make decisions, it makes living with your decisions a whole lot easier!

Even if things don’t go exactly as you planned, you can still be confident that you made the right decision for you based on your own life needs.

How to Determine your Priorities

Many times a decision is complicated by several factors that you might consider important. Of course, each option leans a different way, which causes confusion and uncertainty. So then, what do you do?

Follow this 3-step strategy to cut out the confusion, discover your priorities, and make decisions you can trust:

1. Reflect. Think about what’s most important to you and write them down.

  • Your spouse, family, and other loved ones
  • Your faith
  • Your dreams and goals
  • Your ethics and morals
  • Your health
  • Your work
  • Other things of importance to you

2. Arrange. Put them in order with the most important items at the top.

  • Some of your most important priorities will change at different times in your life. For example, if you’re going to college to get a degree, completing your education may be more important than your part-time job during this time. However, when you’re the sole provider for your family, your job is one of your top priorities.

3. Refer to your priority list when making choices. Gear your decisions toward the option that provides the most advantages for the items at the top of your list whenever possible.  Go with the decision that aids the higher priority over the lower one.

  • For example, when you’re faced with a choice between picking up junk food on the way home from work, or taking an extra 20 minutes to make something healthy at home, choose the healthier option. While it means a little more time to cook something healthy, your health is always one of your top priorities!
  • Things like going for a walk with your kids become easy choices because this activity satisfies two priorities: your health and spending quality time with your kids.

You’ll rarely regret making choices according to your higher priorities. On the other hand, if you should give into the feeling of the moment – like when you want junk food or would rather take a nap than spend time with your family – there may be times in the future when you regret these poor decisions.

Live by the Golden Rule

Another good way to prevent poor choices that lead to regret is to live by the Golden Rule:  “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”  

Treating others with the same thoughtfulness that you’d like to receive yourself keeps you from doing or saying inconsiderate things that you’ll be sorry about later.

Get in the habit of following this rule in everything you do. When you have a disagreement with someone, you’re more likely to search for a solution that benefits both of you, rather than resorting to anger or personal attacks. When this happens, no one wins!

When you take the Golden Rule to heart, not only will you prevent regret, but you’ll also find that people tend to reciprocate your kindness, making your life more enjoyable all around!

Become Action-Oriented

A lot of times, what we regret isn’t so much what we did, but what we didn’t do. Establishing an action-oriented mindset will strengthen your decision skills, too, because your new mindset will help you make decisions that encourage action!

Focus on making the right decision based on your priorities, then trust yourself to do what needs to be done to make your decision a reality. This level of trust will boost your confidence and enable you to achieve your goals with ease.

Here are some tips to help you develop an action-oriented mindset:

1. Avoid procrastination. When you put off doing something you know you should do, it’ll only increase the anxiety and tension in the hours leading up to the inevitable deadline. You’ll regret dilly dallying unless you make it a habit to handle your tasks appropriately.

  • If you’re putting off telling someone something, just take a deep breath and begin. If you start the conversation with pleasantries, it may help you ease into what you have to say.
  • If you’re procrastinating on a project, just getting started is often the only thing that holds you back. Start with something easy so you can build the momentum you need to move forward, faster than ever.
  • If you’re not taking action because a task is too difficult, divide the task into small, easily achievable mini-goals. Once you do, you’ll have a reasonable plan and you’ll be less likely to get overwhelmed.

2. Plan your work and work your plan. Keep a planner and make a daily to-do list. Refer to your list often and cross out your tasks as you complete them so you can see yourself making progress all day long.

  • Make your schedule flexible enough to give yourself time to handle unexpected distractions. Practice immediately taking care of the things that come up and then getting quickly back to your list.

3. Seek solutions to your challenges. So often we let an obstacle in our path stop us from pursuing the life we desire, only to regret it later. With an action-oriented mindset, challenges are only bumps in the road. When a challenge arises, immediately start looking for viable ways around it, then take action to continue toward your goal.

Take Advantage of Opportunities

Are you always “out” when opportunity comes knocking? Learning to recognize good opportunities and taking advantage of them right away can also prevent regret. How many times have you berated yourself for missing a window of opportunity?

One of the best – and simplest – ways to help yourself recognize valuable new ideas is to keep an open mind. Listen to other people’s ideas and then apply them to your own situation. Ask yourself if there’s a way you can use this idea to bring you closer to your goals or make your life better.

Just recognizing the opportunity, however, is not enough. Be sure to use your new action-oriented mindset to take immediate action. If you spend too long simply thinking about it, your window is likely to close. Carpe Diem! Seize the day!

Make Good Memories

You can avoid a lot of regret simply by living on purpose! What does that mean? It means that you choose a life of joy, then actively pursue that life. Spend your time making the memories that you want to have!

Would you rather have memories of work, boredom and wasting away your life – or joyful memories of cherished time with your spouse and kids? Would you rather fill your mind with memories of sit-com reruns – or lively times pursuing your dreams?

Surely no one has ever gone to their grave wishing that they had spent more time working or watching TV! These are simply not the things that matter the most when you look back on your life.

The secret to avoiding regret is to do what matters most.

What do you want to do in your life? Do you want to travel? Then do what it takes to bring in the extra income to pay for it! Do you want to be multi-lingual? Then start learning another language today!

In other words, take action to create the life you want. Don’t spend your time bemoaning your current situation and wishing for more. Do something every day to bring the life you desire into your present and exhibit the qualities you desire. Sooner than you realize, your dreams will become your reality, and you’ll have thoroughly enjoyed the journey, too!

Eliminating Past Regrets

When you harbor resentment about the past, it only hurts you. Nothing good comes from regret or the negative emotions that go along with it.

Here are some techniques that can help you overcome your feelings of regret:

  1. Let bygones be bygones. Things that happened in the past cannot be changed, no matter how hard we try, or how much time we spend wishing that they had happened differently. If there is a way to make amends, do it, then move on with your life. Focus on your present, look forward to your future, and leave the past in the past.
  2. Live in the moment. When you live in the moment, you are fully focused on the now. You feel the pleasures, sensations, and joys of this moment and appreciate all of them. The more you practice this technique, the more you can tune out everything and embrace this moment. Your days are a parade of moments, so you should fully live each one of them, one at a time.
  3. Use affirmations. Affirmations can help you change your mindset from feeling sad about the past to accepting it so you can live a more joyful life. They’re positive statements that you can repeat to yourself every time a regretful thought presents itself.
  4. Here are some examples of affirmations:
  5. I let go of my regret to make room for joy.
  6. I am happy with who I am now and look forward to a joyous future.
  7. I live each day with gratitude for the precious gift of life.

4. Meditate. Meditation helps you envision your life without regret. When meditating, feel the good feelings of a care-free life. Breathe in freshness and breathe out regret. See the negative feelings dissipate in the clear air around you – gone forever, never to return!

A life free from regret is a joyful life indeed!

Strive to use these strategies and techniques to keep regret from raising its ugly head in your path so you can enjoy your journey. It’s going to be a wild and wonderful ride!

What “The Lion King” Can Teach You about Family and Friendship

The Lion King has earned more than $11 billion dollars, making it the most successful Disney franchise in history. Fans love watching Simba overcome challenges with the help of his family and friends.

Just like real life, the story is full of ups and downs. Simba is often in danger, but he doesn’t have to face it alone. He learns the meaning of loyalty and loss and winds up saving his homeland and taking back his throne.

You can achieve great things too if you make your relationships a top priority. Build a community that will make your life more joyful and meaningful.

Lion King Lessons about Strengthening Your Friendships

Uncle Scar and the hyenas might have defeated Simba, except for Nala and his other pals sticking with him through difficult times. In happier moments, these friends knew how to have fun together too.

Consider these important lessons about friendship:

  1. Be flexible. Lions, warthogs, and meerkats may sound like unlikely allies, but it worked out for Simba. If you’re struggling to make new friends, especially as you grow older, consider reaching beyond your usual circle.

  2. Make introductions. Encourage your friends to get to know each other. You’ll discover more about each other and reinforce your connections.

  3. Listen to feedback. Even when things looked bleak, Simba’s friends believed in him. Their encouragement helped to give him the courage and confidence he needed to fulfill his destiny.

  4. Learn to relax. On a lighter note, Timon and Pumbaa also taught Simba about how to cope with pressure. Remember their famous words about putting your past behind you. It might also help to sing “hakuna matata,” or “no worries.”
     
  5. Focus on quality. When you think about it, Simba had only a few close friends, but they provided a lot of support. A handful of strong and healthy relationships will enrich your life more than a bunch of social media followers you barely know.

  6. Plan ahead. Real friendships are based on trust and positive interactions that develop gradually. Invest time and energy into your relationships. The payoff will be worth it.

Lion King Lessons about Connecting with Your Family

The movie reminds us about the circle of life. It begins and ends with proud parents introducing the next generation. Cultivating family ties can help you feel rooted.

Keep these ideas in mind:

  1. Set boundaries. Happy families treat each other with respect. Maybe Scar could have been a better brother to Mufasa if they grew up differently with reasonable expectations and consistent consequences.

  2. Resolve conflicts. Then again, disagreements are natural. What matters is being quick to forgive and open to finding mutually beneficial solutions.

  3. Show appreciation. It also helps to let your family know how much you love them instead of taking each other for granted. Express your affection and gratitude.

  4. Create traditions. Make daily life and special occasions more festive. Family rituals generate lifelong memories and a sense of belonging. Enjoy weekly movie nights and annual Thanksgiving dinners.

  5. Share responsibilities. Routine tasks have a big impact too. Give each family member an opportunity to contribute by dividing chores fairly.

  6. Keep in touch. If there was a silver lining in the pandemic, it may have been the increase in time parents and children spent together. As you go back to work and school, keep that trend going with family dinners, bedtime stories, and weekend outings.

  7. Cope with grief. The Lion King also had a powerful message about loss that resonates with recent events. Maybe you and your children will find comfort and strength in your spiritual faith and ability to adapt to change.

Healthy relationships are essential for your overall health and wellbeing. They also make life more enjoyable and rewarding. Cherishing your family and friends can make you a roaring success, just like Simba.

The Secret Link Between Food and Success

When you want to achieve success, making one change at a time is a technique that brings results. You may be surprised to discover that one of the most beneficial changes you can make towards success is what you eat!

The type of food you eat has an impact on brain function and how you feel overall. For example, the guys over at Google eat sushi for lunch and they’re always coming up with innovative ideas that make our lives easier!

What to Eat

Aside from sushi, what else can you eat to make you more capable of finding success? The secret lies in raw foods – uncooked, natural foods.

  • Uncooked foods enable your body to better absorb all of the vitamins and minerals that the food has to offer.

Raw foods also contain enzymes that are very important for normal bodily function. Without these enzymes, a person can be “off” mentally and physically. You simply can’t function right if you’re not getting the proper nutrition.

In addition, it’s difficult coming up with innovative ideas for your success when your body and your brain are starving for essential nutrients. Why make it harder on yourself? The simple solution is to give your body what it needs.

Some of the most important types of raw food to eat are fruits and vegetables. All by themselves, fruits and vegetables provide much of what your body hungers for.

Benefits that you will receive from eating fruits and vegetables include:

  • Alertness
  • Clear thinking
  • Strong focus
  • Thinking outside the box
  • Ability to find creative and innovative solutions

The most successful and innovative people have many things in common. One of the traits they share is that they feed their brains as well as their body.

Changing your Diet

If your diet leaves something to be desired, you may want to make some changes so that you can take advantage of the benefits that a “success” diet can bring.

Here are some tips to help you make those changes:

  1. Make gradual changes. Gradual changes make it easier for your body and mind to incorporate new routines and new choices. As you make the changes, you’ll notice:

  • You think differently.
  • Your mind stays on the task at hand without deviating too much.
  • Your response time to certain situations is quicker than before.
  • Eat plenty of fruits and vegetables. Fruits and vegetables have essential vitamins and minerals for your body and your brain.

  • Increase your Omega 3 fatty acids. Eat plenty of foods that are high in Omega 3 fatty acids. Omega 3 fatty acids improve brain function.

    Where do you find these important acids?

  • In certain types of fish such as salmon, Mahi Mahi, and other varieties
  • In ground flaxseed
  • In additional foods to which Omega 3 fatty acids have been added. Check your food labels: some foods have added Omega 3s to ensure that people are receiving an adequate supply in their diets.

So start with fruits and vegetables and if you’re not sure which ones you’ll like, buy a little at a time and taste test them. Many people turn their nose up at foods that are healthy for them. To their surprise, they later find that many of them taste good!

The best surprise, though, comes when you notice the difference in how you think, how you feel, and how you are enjoying growing success!

How To Start a Business While Keeping Your Day Job

You’re not making enough money at your primary job. You want more work-life balance. You’re tired of fielding frustrating customers or micromanaging supervisors. 

It’s the figurative (and sometimes literal) million-dollar question these days: how can you start a business while keeping your day job?

We will take a look at the financial, spiritual, and personal details you need to ask yourself before juggling your day job with a side gig. When done wrong, starting a business can be a thankless endeavor…and when done right, it can be the best decision you ever made

Are You Unhappy With Your Primary Job?

Forbes revealed in a 2019 report more than half of Americans today are unsatisfied with their job. That’s not just a quality-of-life issue…that’s a crisis

So much of your everyday life is wrapped up in your primary job. It’s how you pay your bills and gain access to education. When your primary job feels more like a barrier than a launching pad, every detail in your life is bound to suffer. 

The most common reasons why American workers today want greener pastures include:

  • Little to no personal stake in their role
  • Lacking a voice
  • Few healthcare benefits
  • Long commutes
  • No room for growth

“Rather than waiting passively for success to whisk you away, it’s time to create your own version of success. When you are proactively taking steps every day, you have a better chance of realizing your goals. After all, it’s far more productive than watching other people achieve success.”

How To Get Started

Knowing what you’re unhappy with is a great place to start. List five goals you want to achieve with the creation of your small business: this can include eliminating the commute, working with better clients, and having more downtime. The more specific, the better!

Do You Need to Make More Money?

It’s perfectly understandable to leave a job because it’s not giving you financial support. It’s hard to enjoy an abundant, meaningful life when you’re struggling to pay your bills. 

Bank Of America conducted a 2019 survey that found a staggering 82% of small business owners making more money once they decided to go the entrepreneur route. You don’t have to take the plunge into complete entrepreneurship, of course, but it’s a route that could prove fulfilling a few years down the line. 

Side jobs are appealing because you can ease into these waters without completely compromising your income. 

How To Get Started

It’s hard to make money that isn’t there. Research the major and minor players in your industry of choice: look at how much they make annually and which customers often buy from them. This will help you with planning out products, services, prices, and your marketing campaign. 

If your business can’t pay its bills, it’s going to fail. Because most entrepreneurs are not financially literate, it can quickly go wrong. Many small business owners go into business not for their love of crushing numbers but for their goal to make the world better with their products.”

Related: How to Live an Abundant Life

Is Your Work-Life Balance Suffering?

No life was meant to be lived under constant stress and fear of what the next day can bring. Your work-life balance could benefit mightily from having the breathing room that comes with a side business.

Gartner found work-life balance among American employees to be valued even more than health benefits. That means more time spent with their families, enjoying hobbies, or managing side gigs. 

If your work-life balance is lacking, a side business can offer you:

  • The option to set your own hours 
  • Diversify your income (aka not ‘putting all your eggs in one basket’)
  • More personal fulfillment 

If your small business isn’t executed correctly, however, you run the risk of:

  • Becoming overworked (aka not ‘turning off’ at the end of the day)
  • Indirectly paying more money in an effort to make money (advertisements, fees, etc)
  • Increasing your risk of burnout 

How To Get Started

Your primary job will take precedence. Make a list of your day-to-day hours and how much you can afford to shave off in favor of your side business. Even if that’s just five hours a week, that’s a start!

Related: A Foolproof Plan to Boost Your Confidence

Everyone needs a little help sometimes. Learn more Proctor Gallagher Consultant and how we offer practical insight into the art of starting a successful side business.

Do You Have Dreams Waiting To Be Achieved?

Have you been coming up with designs for the next great product in your industry of choice? Do you often think about how issues in your niche could be better?

These are a big sign you have a dream that isn’t being realized. 

Did you know Millennials and Gen Zers are nearly 200% more likely to have a side job these days? Over the years small businessowners have become more bold, eager to take control of their goals instead of waiting for the world to right itself. 

How To Get Started

All successful dreams start with confidence. Write down three things you have to offer your particular industry: this can be technical skill, personality, creativity, punctuality, or a strong sense of ethics. These qualities will help form your mission statement and keep you focused.

“You’ve seen the cliché “power” pose of CEOs, with them leaning back with outstretched legs and looking up with their hands behind the head. If you’re standing, put both feet flat on the floor, chest out and shoulders back. Play the part. If you act confident on the outside, you’ll feel more confident on the inside.”

Related: Bring Your Dreams to Life by Creating a Personal Mission Statement

Is Starting a Business Worth It?

It’s extremely daunting to start a business, even a side business adjacent to your primary job. That doesn’t mean it’s not worth it. 

When you start a business you truly take life into your own two hands. You command more control over your income and gain specialized insight into your industry that wasn’t possible before. Personal fulfillment is an especially apt reason to get started with a side gig, even if it’s a simple $50 or $100 a month.

How To Get Started

Ask for professional help. Proctor Gallagher Consultant is deeply familiar with the pain points of beginning small businessowners. From building good business habits to dissecting your personal motivation, we’re ready to meet you where you are.

Don’t start a business all by yourself. Contact Proctor Gallagher Consultant and gain valuable insight that’ll change your life forever.

How to Live an Abundant Life

A life filled with physical, emotional, spiritual, and financial abundance is truly a gift. Everyone should have security, peace of mind, love, and overall joyfulness. But how can something that should be second nature be so difficult to attain?

Perhaps our hectic lives confuse or distract us from achieving a life of abundance. But the power of our thoughts can transform our lives for the better – if we know how to use it.

Wealth is Good!

We all have to build wealth in our lives, but before we can build wealth, we have to understand that everyone’s definition of wealth is different. It doesn’t have to mean making millions of dollars and flying a private jet to one of your 10 estate homes.

Wealth can simply mean having a steady, full-time job where you earn enough money to give your family a safe place to sleep with quality food on the table and nice clothes to wear. It may also mean you are fulfilled spiritually and emotionally.

Don’t fool yourself by saying you don’t care about material things and, therefore, you don’t need to care too much about building wealth. Remember that wealth does not necessarily mean material wealth. Just because you desire wealth, it doesn’t mean you have to be attached to money like a Scrooge.

You can be emotionally wealthy because of the positive relationships you foster. You can be spiritually wealthy because of your faith. You can be physically wealthy because of your vibrant health. And you can be financially wealthy because of the money you have earned. Wealth simply isn’t a monetary figure!

Wealth is Not Just About Money

As mentioned, the term wealth doesn’t just describe how much money you have. You can also use the word to describe the people in your life and your satisfaction with your life in general.

  • If you have a close relationship to your family, you are wealthy.
  • If you love waking up in the morning and get satisfaction out of your job everyday, you are wealthy.
  • If you have friends who love you as their own family, you are wealthy.

  • If you have a fervent faith, you are wealthy.

Living an abundant life simply means being happy in all aspects of your life and having the resources to care for your family. Obviously you won’t be happy every minute of every day, but if you are usually well taken care of, then you already have an abundant life.

How to Build Wealth

You need carry a positive mindset in life if you wish to build the wealth you want and deserve. You must believe that what you want can be attained, that you have the power to attain it, and that it will be delivered to you in your lifetime. Without this mindset, you’re more likely to give up when times get tough.

Loving yourself is also of great importance. You have to love yourself first if you want to receive love from others. If you don’t have love from others, you won’t lead the life you desire.

We can’t change the world unless we start by changing ourselves. But if we change ourselves, we can change the whole world. And if we change ourselves for the better, there’s no reason why we can’t or shouldn’t live an abundant life.

For Greater Success, Try Positive Action Instead of Positive Thinking

We’ve all heard that positive thinking can boost your odds of becoming successful. While positive thinking helps, research shows that simple actions can have a greater impact on behavior and the results.

Most people think that it takes a lot of work and effort to get meaningful results. But sometimes simple actions are the key.

Scientific research has shown that these 10 exercises have a positive effect:

  1. Do things in a new way. If you’re trying to quit smoking, try smoking with the opposite hand. It makes the behavior seem unusual, and you’ll be less likely to smoke. We often smoke automatically, so doing it differently will force you to think about it.

  2. Nod in agreement. If someone nods while communicating, they’re more likely to agree with what’s being said. If you want someone to agree with you, subtly nod your head while chatting with them. They will unconsciously start to do the same. This results in a greater likelihood of agreeing with you.

  3. Act happy. The simple act of smiling makes you feel happier. Studies have suggested smiling big, using your whole face (including your forehead), and making it last about 20 seconds. This will ensure your smile makes an impact.

  4. Act sternly. Those that sit up straight and cross their arms have been shown to persevere twice as much as those that sat in other ways. Try this technique if you want to be persistent.

  5. Wash up. A recent study found that washing your hands, taking a bath, or showering can reduce feelings of guilt. Even cleaning the hands with an antiseptic after committing an immoral act significantly reduced guilty feelings.

  6. Soft chairs for soft people. If you have to negotiate with others, arrange for them to sit in a soft chair. Studies have shown that firm chairs result in tougher negotiating. A soft chair makes people more flexible.

  7. Just begin! Spending a few minutes on the activity you’re avoiding can often stop procrastination. Getting started really is the hardest part.

  8. Be emotionally intimate. Couples that are close are more likely to talk about the intimate aspects of life. The opposite is also true. When two people have an intimate conversation, they feel more attracted to each other. If you’re on a date, steer the conversation toward more meaningful topics.

  9. Flex your muscles. One study discovered that tensing your muscles increases your willpower. If you’re struggling to quit smoking or to stick to a diet, the solution is easier than you think. Make a fist and flex your biceps. If you’re around others, flex your leg muscles.

  10. Act confident. You’ve seen the cliché “power” pose of CEOs, with them leaning back with outstretched legs and looking up with their hands behind the head. If you’re standing, put both feet flat on the floor, chest out and shoulders back. Play the part. If you act confident on the outside, you’ll feel more confident on the inside.

These ideas all come from university research, so there’s some science behind them. Try them and see what impact they have on your life.

While positive thinking is great, sometimes positive actions can be even more powerful.

Bring Your Dreams to Life by Creating a Personal Mission Statement

Your mission statement tells the world who you are and what you hope to do with your life. It helps you focus throughout your life on what you feel your purpose is.

Consider a couple of examples of personal mission statements:

A working parent’s mission statement: “I want to be the best parent I can be and still excel in my sales career. My hope is to eventually become involved in a charity foundation that helps other people live safer, more secure, and fulfilling lives.”

A counselor’s mission statement: “My purpose on earth is to assist others in resolving their life struggles and moving on to live their best life possible. Also, taking in and spreading knowledge through a variety of media such as speaking, writing, and teaching are important for me to live a life that truly matters. I want to experience what it’s like to love and be loved deeply.”

Creating your mission statement will enrich your life in many ways!

The process will help you clarify your hopes and dreams and discover what is most important to you. Then, you can create goals that support your mission and move your life toward fulfilling your purpose. And working towards those goals will become a joy in itself!

This 6-step process will help you formulate your own personal mission statement:

  1. Reflect on your life goals. Describe your top four or five wishes for your entire life. Those are your life goals.

  2. Identify what you want to learn. Do you require more knowledge to work toward achieving your life goals? If so, you’ll want to include something about continuous learning or education in your statement.

  3. Think in the short-term. What is it you wish to work on over the next decade or so? Maybe it’s settling into a new community and establishing yourself as an expert in yoga. Perhaps it’s getting yourself through college and finding work that fulfills you.

  4. Ponder the long-term — throughout your life span. What do you want to be doing 30 or 40 years from now?
  • Consider elderly people in your life that you respect, admire, or consider as your mentors. How are they making a difference in their lives as they age?

  • As you mature, you’ll accumulate a lot of life knowledge, experience, and expertise in your field. How could you use it when you’re 60, 70, or even 80 years old? How would you like to use your knowledge and personal “gifts” for others?

  • How do you want your journey to unfold?

  • Ask yourself, “What do I hope to accomplish before I die?” What would you like to be known for? How do you want others to remember you after you’ve passed on?

  • Use your own words. For example, you might say, “I want to help as many people as I can as a social worker in a large city.” Or “My main goals in life are to learn as much as I can about staying in shape and remaining in excellent health, and to help others learn to stay in good health, too.” Such specifics can be included in your statement.

Writing your personal mission statement not only gives your life focus, but it also provides meaning, purpose, and incentive for you to do everything possible to live your best life.

Create your personal mission statement today. You have a lot of living to do!

What is the Secret Law of Attraction?

Are you fed up with the notions of what you’re supposed to do?

We’re all taught early in life that we’re supposed to grow up and work for a company like an indentured servant for 40 years and then fade away at retirement with a company pension that barely covers the necessities of daily existence. However, people are becoming more enlightened and educated, realizing that there’s a better way. You can have a prosperous life and feel fulfilled!

“The Secret” Exposed

The incredibly popular book and movie, The Secret, has made such a powerful impact on people, but at the same time, The Secret isn’t really revealing anything new. It speaks of ancient secrets that successful people have used since the beginning of time. People within “inner circles” throughout the ages have jealously guarded this secret because they felt that if it got out, it would quickly be distorted or watered down.

But now, the increasing educational level of people has allowed the average person to learn about and use the secret law. And that law is: like attracts like. This essentially means that you have to picture yourself as wealthy and successful in order to be someone who is wealthy and successful.

  • Creating a positive mindset and thinking about the positives in life is paramount to “The Secret” working.

If you can see yourself as wealthy and successful, then you can become that way – even if you start with nothing. Wealth and success are not matters of luck or some kind of rare talent. Success is created by habits. These habits are instilled in people through visualizing their dreams as reality.

It’s More Than a Pipe Dream…

You have to do more than just visualize your bank account overflowing with cash. You have to be willing to take action, even if only baby steps. Keeping that positive mindset always at the forefront of your thoughts will help you focus and guide you to take the correct steps to prosperity.

  • If you intensely picture your life as prosperous, you’ll begin to notice opportunities arising that will lead you to newfound prosperity, such as a job promotion or a new position with a different company.
  • If you intensely picture your life as being debt-free, then you’ll see opportunities to make extra money to pay off those credit cards, such as doing odd jobs for neighbors, having a yard sale, or selling unwanted items on eBay.
  • If you intensely picture yourself having a healthy body, then you’ll subconsciously start to make changes to your lifestyle. Sometimes a visual reminder helps keep you motivated, so find a picture of a healthy body and give yourself permission to want that for yourself.

When you can visualize your new life and focus on what you want to do and where you want to be, you’ll attract great things to your life. On the flipside, if you hold onto negative thoughts, you will only attract more negative feelings and experiences in your life.

Give yourself permission to desire a good life and focus your mind deeply and fully. You must first believe that you deserve a good life before you can live one. That is the secret.

Building a Life Full of Success

Do you have friends or family members who have achieved immense success in their lives and you find yourself wishing you could have that the same?  Are you filled with envy toward the people who have everything they want? 

Most of us experience these feelings from time to time, but instead of allowing jealousy to make you miserable and negative, you can create your own success.  After all, you are the only person who can control how you define “success.” So instead of spending your time feeling jealous, you can spend your time filling your life with success.

Creating Success for Yourself

Many people spend their lives wondering when success is going to magically appear on their lap but, of course, it never happens this way.  If, instead, we spend less time dreaming and more time building, we’d be much happier and success will be well within our grasp.

Rather than waiting passively for success to whisk you away, it’s time to create your own version of success. When you are proactively taking steps every day, you have a better chance of realizing your goals. After all, it’s far more productive than watching other people achieve success.

A great way to create the successful life you have always hoped for is to set clear, actionable goals. How do you want your life to be defined? What do you want to be doing a year from now, five years from now, or even ten years from now? What sort of goals can you set for yourself that will help motivate you and keep you going in the right direction so you can reach out and grab what you want?

You will want to make sure the goals you set are attainable. The best way to do this is to start with short-term goals that help you work towards your long-term goals. This will help you move forward and build momentum without becoming discouraged. Besides, it’ll help to keep your eye on the prize.  If you set goals that are too ambitious, you will be more inclined to give up before you even get started.

Building a “Success!” Attitude

Your attitude and thoughts determine your success, so make sure they are congruent.  If you have some negative or self-defeating inner dialogues, it will be much more difficult for you to achieve your goals and build the life of success you have always wanted.  That’s why it’s a good idea to use the power of positive affirmations to propel you forward.

Affirmations can help people from all walks of life reach great success, even if they started out in the lowest of low places. So remember that success isn’t limited to the rich and famous!

Having a list of affirmations on hand can help you overcome those moments of self-doubt, envy, or even anger that you may feel toward others.  Affirmations are simple thoughts like, “Each simple, completed task propels me towards success,” or, “I am worthy of great success.” These affirmations help to remind you of what your goals are and, in turn, remind you that you are worthy of all you desire, and more!