One of the greatest tools available to every person is the ability to visualize what we want. The mind is an incredible tool and will do what you tell it to with descriptive words or images. You have heard about the law of attraction. That which you focus on you attract more of into your life. The more I learn about the law of attraction the more that it seems to be a law of awareness and desire.
If you buy a new car, all of a sudden everywhere you look you see that make and model and even color. I bought my son a 2007 Jeep Commander last year for him to start driving. I literally notice every Jeep Commander that I pass now where before I paid no attention to them. When we are in different situations we will see what we are looking for in that time. If we are looking for lazy, careless staff guess what you will find? If you are looking for happy, energetic staff that are competent and love what they do, again that is what you will find.
Much like two people seeing an event and noticing and remembering it differently, we find what we are looking for in any situation. Are you looking for the negative or positive in life? ‘No’, ‘not’ and ‘don’t’ are all neutral words in that they don’t make a picture and have little effect on the subconscious mind. Thinking ‘I am not insecure’, ‘I don’t feel self-conscious’, ‘I don’t feel nervous’ causes the mind to lock on to the only descriptive words in the sentence – nervous, insecure and self-conscious .
Eliminate every possible negative word; focus only on what you wish to achieve and move towards. Keep your mind on what you want and off what you don’t want. Whatever you focus on you will move towards, so thinking about how you don’t want to feel and what you don’t want to do simply puts negative words and images back into your mind.
- • Tell yourself: ‘I feel confident’ not ‘I am no longer insecure.’
- • Think: ‘I am taking action every day in the direction of my goals and enjoying the process’ or ‘I like talking to people, it’s easy for me’ rather than ‘I’m not as shy as I used to be.’
- • Visualize, think and say, ‘My attitude is fantastic’, ‘I “have high self-esteem’ not ‘This is easier than I expected.’
- • Focus your thoughts positively to ‘I feel so committed to visualization; it feels so right’ not ‘It’s not as hard as I thought it would be.’
If you think you can’t do it, that you can’t visualize, then you need to be aware that you are already visualizing all the time. Every time you say: ‘I can’t do it, it’s impossible for me to speak in public or to someone I am attracted to or in awe of, if I do that I know I will blush, I can’t speak up, I can’t do interviews, I can’t talk to strangers’, you are already visualizing and it’s working, but not to your advantage. You might as well use good visualizations as your mind will believe and act upon whatever you tell it, good or bad. You have nothing to lose apart from your fears and everything to gain by making your words and pictures positive.