Having less than I need drives me to work harder.

I make the most of what I have until I am able to acquire all I need. I am at peace with the blessings bestowed upon me. However, I am also confident that more blessings are still to come.

I make it a point to work hard and then claim what is out there for me, so the reward is that much sweeter in the end.

My needs are not only material, but also spiritual. I need and deserve inner peace, love, and happiness. I know that although I have a certain level of all three spiritual attributes, I deserve more.

So I work towards creating more peace, love, and happiness in my life, as well as in the lives of those I love. When the people I love have all three, I also achieve greater levels in my own spiritual life.

Today, I work hard and gleefully claim what is rightfully mine from that work. When I want more, I work harder and smarter. There is only goodness in store for me in the future.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. Do I sometimes get disheartened when things do not go my way?
2. Do I share my blessings with others so they too can develop the drive to achieve more for themselves?
3. Am I satisfied with what I have?

The Power of Asking Effective Questions

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We ask ourselves questions all day long.

“Where are my keys?” “What do I want for lunch?” “What should I do next?”

Sometimes the questions we ask serve us. At other times, they do us a disservice. “Why can’t I do anything right?” is an example of such a question. Our brains will always attempt to answer our questions, even if it has to make up the answers.

Asking yourself better questions is a great way to improve your life. Better questions will result in getting better answers.

Try these ideas to harness the power of asking more effective questions:

  1. Develop a set of questions that you can ask yourself before you even get out of bed. These questions should serve to motivate you and get you in the mood to have a great day. Consider these examples:
  • “What can I do to enjoy work today?”
    • “What am I grateful for in my life right now?”
    • “Whom can I help today?”
    • Develop your own questions to inspire and motivate you!
  • Pay attention to the questions that you ask yourself throughout the day. Make note of the questions that make your life more challenging. Correct yourself on the spot and come up with a better question. As an example, “Why can’t I ever be on time?” could become, “What can I do to be on time from now on?”
  • You will be surprised by how many of the questions you habitually ask yourself are disempowering. We’re all sabotaging ourselves! We can turn the tables and support ourselves.

    • Do you think a highly successful person asks the same questions every day that the average person asks? Probably not. Successful people ask questions that empower them.

  • Apply the same idea to your interactions with others. Many of the questions we ask others make them defensive, and a solution becomes more difficult to find. Instead, ask questions that help you both.
  • For example, if one of your employees isn’t getting along well with his co-workers, you could ask him, “What can we do to increase the level of harmony within our group?” This is more effective than asking, “Why can’t you ever get along with anyone?”
  • The effectiveness of your communication will increase dramatically simply by asking better questions and using the answers wisely.

  • Ask questions during challenging times. When you first notice yourself slipping into a negative emotional state, use questions to find a solution. Questions focus our attention.
  • When your attention is on solutions, you tend to find solutions.
  • When your attention is on the challenge, the challenge tends to grow.

  • Ask questions that support your goals. If you’re trying to lose weight, ask yourself about healthy food choices. “What could I eat for lunch that would taste delicious but still support my weight loss goal?” Develop some questions that will assist you in accomplishing your goals.

  • Create a set of questions to ask yourself at the end of the day. Many of your morning questions might be suitable. Ask yourself about your day. What was great? What did you learn? How will you do better tomorrow?

Questions are a powerful aspect of language. They determine our focus and ultimately have a profound effect on our level of success. We can use questions to improve our relationships. They can even help us to have a good day and a restful night’s sleep. Asking more effective questions is a powerful tool.

Learn to harness the power of asking effective questions. Your life will improve in surprising ways.

I must focus on the positive, constant things in my life.

I have so many beautiful reasons to be happy that I could never waste my time looking at the negative. My eyes are fixed on the things that add life to me and my mind is anchored on valuable thoughts. There is a song of thanksgiving on my lips.

I release myself from concerned thoughts of things beyond my control. Temporary situations cannot consume me because I know they will not last. Instead, I focus on my blessings.

My family is the rock under my feet that will never be removed. They are the most constant force in my life. Their love is unwavering. I know I am loved regardless of whether I fail or succeed. When I think of this, I am filled with joy.

Whenever I feel negativity creeping close to me, I speak to my heart. I remind myself of all the things I have going for me, and the things I look forward to achieving in the future.

Regardless of how bad or good yesterday was, today the sun will rise. Every morning, the sun rises as a reminder from heaven of the gifts we are given each and every day.

When I look at the sun, I am reminded that life happens one day at a time. This thought prompts me to release my inhibitions and allows me to focus on the things that matter.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. What are the constant things in my life?
2. Do I waste time and energy thinking about things that I cannot control?
3. What does the daily process of the sunrise symbolize to me?

I stay motivated.

I pursue my goals with energy and enthusiasm. I remember my purpose. I think about the reasons behind my activities. I feel inspired knowing that my efforts help me to develop my potential and serve others.

I set interim goals. I break big projects down into smaller steps. I create milestones that enable me to chart my progress. I want to keep working when I see that I am drawing closer to fulfilling my dreams.

I focus on benefits. I visualize becoming stronger and leaner each time I work out. I anticipate the skills and knowledge I can acquire by completing a training course at work.

I reduce distractions. I turn off the television and limit the time I spend browsing online.

I take care of my health. I eat nutritious foods and go to bed on time. I manage stress and think positive. I can accomplish more when I keep my mind and body in top shape.

I give myself a pep talk. I choose words that encourage me and give me reassurance.

I surround myself with support. My friends and family give me constructive feedback and pick me up when I stumble. They give me guidance and cheer me on.

I start now. If I feel sluggish, I dive into what I need to do anyway. My feelings change as I become caught up in my work. I become engaged and excited.

Today, I push beyond my comfort zone. I am driven to succeed.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. How does what I do in the morning affect my motivation levels throughout the day?
2. What is the difference between internal and external motivation?
3. What happens when I refuse to give up?

8 Ways to Unlock Your Potential

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Do you wonder why you haven’t accomplished more with your life? Do you feel that you have great potential locked up inside of you? Most adults feel this way. No one ever truly reaches their potential, but it’s discouraging that so many of us never even scratch the surface of our potential. Are you ready to find out what you can do?

Find out what you’re really capable of accomplishing:

  1. Be bold. This is the number one tip for unleashing your potential on the world. Your limited achievements are likely due to the fact that you’re timid. If you were out there doing your best each day, you’d be too busy piling up successes to read an article like this. Stop caring about the opinions of others and show the world what you’ve got.

  2. Have bold goals. To live up to your potential, you need goals. Goals provide a direction for your energy and effort. Effective goals are motivating, which is great if you’re going to set bold goals! Avoid overwhelming yourself. Goals should be bold, but not overwhelming.
  • Combine your strengths and interests. Do you really care about maximizing your chess-playing potential if you don’t enjoy playing chess? You’ll have the most potential in the areas where you show natural strength and have a high level of interest. What are you good at that you also enjoy?

  • Get expert assistance. Some of the leading experts in the world still have a coach or mentor. The right mentor can help you to reach your potential faster than you can do it alone. Spend the time necessary to find a good mentor. It’s like putting your progress on the fast track.

  • Make progress each day. A small amount of progress, accumulated over time, can result in amazing progress. Avoid overwhelming yourself by setting a schedule or goals that you can’t maintain. But, be sure to make some progress each and every day. The amount of progress you can make in a year would be staggering.

  • Develop habits that help you accomplish your goals. Keeping with the same theme of making progress each day, your habits are those things you do each day. An effective set of habits all but guarantees success.
  • Examine your goals and determine the habits that would make success likely. The hardest job you have is creating habits. Once the right habits are in place, there’s little else to worry about. Create an effective routine and stick with it.
  • Determine your obstacles. There’s always something in the way. It might be a lack of time, money, or other resource. Maybe you have a spouse that demands a lot of your time. Maybe you live in the wrong place. After all, it’s not easy to maximize your surfing skills in Missouri.
  • Create a plan for dealing with your obstacles. What can you do to overcome them, or at least minimize them? What do you need? What do you need to stop doing? How can you alter your life to make success more likely?

  • Expect success. If you expect failure, you’re bound to fail. Why not give yourself the benefit of the doubt and expect good things? If you have solid goals, good habits, and a smidge of discipline, there’s no reason to doubt yourself.

Making a few decisions, acting boldly, and finding a mentor are just a few of the things you can do to unlock your potential. Make today the day you start living at your highest level. What are you waiting for?

I am inspired by beautiful things.

I find inspiration in many things. Beautiful things have the greatest impact on me. I am captivated by things that are visually appealing. They reenergize me and remind me to be grateful. But, I find greater beauty in a deeper place.

My definition of beauty is different from the norm. I see the character of someone or the qualities of something as the true source of beauty.

When I take a moment to look at blooming flowers, I am in awe. Although their colors are beautiful, I am more inspired by their movement. Flowers that open up in the morning sun inspire hope and motivation. And when they bow peacefully to the setting sun, they remind me to be humble.

I am in awe of how much beauty exists around me.

Much of my creativity is innate, but a great portion comes from the motivation of other creative forces. The examples of beauty that I see and hear inspire me.

It is inspiring to know that even when external beauty fades, the inner characteristics remain intact. I get constant encouragement and inspiration from the people in my life. I enjoy life by embracing the inner beauty of others.

Today, I continue to take inspiration from external sources. I know I can look around me and find true beauty to guide my path. I want to live a beautiful life and make living wonderful for others.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. Who or what inspires me the most?
2. What beauty surrounds me at this moment?
3. How can I see my own inner beauty when I am soul-searching?

Each day, I share my passion for life.

I have many wonderful people, places, and situations in my life. It brings great comfort to know that, in this day, I can enjoy the bounty and joy that surrounds me. And as I find simple pleasures in all that I have, I impart my passions to others.

My co-workers often make me smile. I am touched by something they do or say and I cannot wait to share these happenings with my family.

Close friends and family bring me a zest for life. Seeing their faces and spending time with them provides me with overflowing feelings of happiness.

My work satisfies and delivers great personal rewards. To ensure I maintain passion for my job, I read and study about new projects and skills that interest me.

Engaging in fun hobbies and physical activities supplies me with ongoing zeal. As I take walks, work out at the gym, and lift weights, I feel stronger. Taking part in activities I love provides me with plenty of fodder to share.

I realize my passion for life is infectious. I see the interest others show as I relate stories about those I meet and things I love. Sharing with others brings me joy.

Today, I ignite passion in others by sharing the things that light the fires of my own passion. I am invigorated as I share my life’s true passions with others.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. What kinds of things bring me passion?
2. How do I share my passion with others?
3. When was the last time I revealed my passions to someone?

The Lies You Tell Yourself

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We lie to ourselves on a daily basis. These lies cover up our perceived shortcomings and prevent us from taking risks. Ultimately, these lies limit our lives and our ability to enjoy life fully. In the end, our lies serve the purpose of making us feel better in the short-term. You may not even be aware of the lies you tell yourself.

Avoid lying to yourself and start living:

  1. “I don’t have a choice.” We all have an unlimited number of options available to us at any time. You might not feel brave or capable enough to consider them all, but you do have options. Consider what advice you would give a friend in a similar situation. Or determine what your most capable friend would do. Can you do the same?

  2. “If I do X or say Y, people will think less of me.” Thought it’s hard to believe, no one cares. Everyone is too preoccupied with their own lives or else wondering what your opinion is of them.
  • If you believe you’re worthy, you won’t have these types of thoughts. You’re good enough to do and say what you want.

  • “It’s too late for me.” People have graduated from medical school in their 60’s. An 80-year old successfully climbed Mount Everest. Do you still think it’s too late?
  • Many things become less convenient as we get older. For example, it’s more challenging to go back to school when you have a family and a full-time job compared to a single, 20-year old. But challenging and impossible are completely different.

  • “Anything short of perfect is failure.” If you have to be the best at something before you’ll try, you’ll never get off the couch. Most of us don’t have the potential to be the best at anything, but we can all be pretty good at just about anything. However, it requires time and effort.
  • Do you really need to be the best? That’s another sign of feeling unworthy. There’s no reason to be competitive with everything you do. Enjoy yourself without worrying about how well you’re doing.

  • “I’d be happy if I had more money.” Studies have shown that happiness and income are only correlated up to a salary of roughly $70,000 per year. That means that millionaires are no happier than those that make $70,000 annually. If you can pay your bills each month, money isn’t limiting your happiness.

  • “I can change him (or her).” Unlikely. Think about how hard is to change yourself, even when you want to change. Now imagine how difficult it is to change someone else. And that other person probably doesn’t want to change. It isn’t going to happen.
  • Learn to accept others as they are. If something about them is too disagreeable, distance yourself from them.

  • “I’m limited in my ability to accomplish anything.” It has been said that learning to walk and talk are far more challenging than anything else anyone has ever accomplished. You’re probably saying to yourself, “Well, everyone can walk and talk.” Exactly. You’re infinitely more capable than you need to be.
  • You may have a few issues to resolve, but your inherent capability isn’t one of them.

We are masters at deluding ourselves. We lie to the person in the mirror in order to protect ourselves – to make us feel better. Avoid giving up your future in order to appease your emotions in the short-term. It could be argued that the purpose of all self-help is to learn how to lie to ourselves less frequently. Try it! You could be the next marvel of the universe!

How to Axe Self-Sabotaging Behavior

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Self-sabotage is a uniquely human behavior. Many of us sabotage ourselves when we decide we want something by doing everything we can to ensure we don’t get it. Sound familiar? Although self-sabotage is a subconscious behavior, we can get a handle on it.

There are many reasons that you might sabotage yourself. It’s an extremely common behavior, rooted in a fear of the unknown. If you’ve immersed yourself in mediocrity, the idea of greatness may be frightening. Ask yourself if you’re satisfied with your life.

Find out why you may self-sabotage:

  1. Control. You might self-sabotage because you have a need to be in control of your circumstances. The easiest and most certain way to stay in control is to maintain the status quo.
  • If you put your all into something, you run the risk of becoming vulnerable. Fear gets the best of you and you self-sabotage.
  • Low self-esteem. Do you feel unworthy of greatness?
  • For whatever reason, you may have decided that happiness ought to be forever beyond your reach. This is a self-limiting idea, and it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
  • Excitement. Perhaps you undermine your efforts because you’re seeking excitement. You feel the need to remain in a constant state of turmoil to distract yourself from painful memories or alleviate boredom.

If you see yourself in any of these descriptions, fear not: there are steps you can take to put yourself on the path toward self-mastery.

Consider this process for defeating your self-sabotage:

  1. Observe your behavior. First off, it’s essential that you begin to observe yourself. You can effectively do this by creating a self-sabotage journal. Make a journal entry every time you realize that you’ve sabotaged yourself. Describe the setting, circumstances, and end result. Avoid over-analyzing.
  • Most often, a person’s true intentions are most evident in their actions, rather than their words.
  • Strive to be an impersonal observer in your journal. Eventually, you’ll gain a better understanding of your motives in certain situations.
  • Envision success. Keep in mind that success is neither black nor white. Cultivate the habit of envisioning what success means to you and remember how it feels to achieve it. If you do this consistently, you may find that what you envision changes over time.
  • Begin to see success as an integral part of your future, but realize there will still be challenges. Just like everyone else, you’ll still have to pay taxes and have relationship issues.
  • Let go of the notion of perfection. As you visualize success, are you still thinking that success equals perfection? If so, it’s time to realize that nobody is perfect.
  • This is what George Bernard Shaw would refer to as “doublethink.” Perfection and life are mutually exclusive because perfection is unattainable. Your subconscious won’t allow you to achieve success if you associate success with the impossible task of being perfect.
  • Think of your subconscious as a computer. It doesn’t know how to execute a command called “do the impossible.”
  • If you associate success with fear, your subconscious will fight you the entire way. Why? Because its primary function is to protect you from perceived threats.

Give yourself permission to anticipate success with excitement. Perhaps you’ve been sending your subconscious the message, “Don’t give me success!” So, let’s put your self-sabotaging behaviors in the past!

Embrace the good life you deserve by picturing yourself as successful, and then refuse to talk yourself out of going for it. The journey to your ideal life starts now!


11 Tips to Self-Motivate

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Even the most experienced and successful achievers can use a little help getting motivated from time to time. Motivating yourself is a learnable skill. Everyone procrastinates at times. It’s human nature. Several tactics and strategies can lift your motivation to the critical level necessary to get yourself moving again.

Try these techniques to motivate yourself and get things done:

  1. Choose happiness. It’s much easier to motivate yourself when you’re in a positive mood. Focus on the wonderful things in your life that fill you with gratitude. Cleaning out the garage won’t seem quite as daunting. Keep your mind on the positive things in your life.

  2. Learn how to be a finisher. A trail of unfinished projects can dampen anyone’s enthusiasm to start another. Avoid quitting before a task is 100% completed. You’ll be more interested in taking on new tasks when you expect to be successful. Success breeds success.

  3. Expect mistakes. The only people that don’t make mistakes are those who never do anything. The more mistakes you make, the more you’ll learn. Mistakes can be very positive. Use them to your advantage.

  4. Keep yourself grounded in the present. If you’re worrying about the future or beating yourself up over the past, it’s challenging to get anything accomplished right now. Focus on your breathing for a few minutes if your mind is running wild.

  5. Focus on the result. You’ll find it difficult to get started if you sit around and think about all the work that needs to be done. Focus on the result and you’ll feel much more motivated.

  6. Give yourself a reward. You go to work every day because you know that a paycheck is coming your way. You wouldn’t go otherwise. Give yourself a small, but meaningful, reward when your work is complete. Determine the reward before you get started.

  7. Use a timer. Decide how long a task should take and see if you’re right. Set a timer and see if you can beat the clock. A little time pressure will help to keep you focused on your work. There are many timer apps and programs available at no cost.

  8. Read inspirational quotes. Reading inspirational quotes by those who have achieved great success can be very motivating. Spend a few minutes reading these great quotes and you’ll be sure to experience an enhanced level of enthusiasm. Consider creating a list of quotes that you can keep nearby in case of emergency.

  9. Consider the price of failure. What is the price of failing to follow through? Make a list of the negatives. Some of us are more driven by pain then we are by reward. Using both to your advantage can be powerful.

  10. Get some exercise. If you’re felling stuck, go for a brisk walk or a short run. Taking a short break every 60 minutes has been shown to increase productivity. Keep your breaks short so you don’t get off track.

  11. Measure your progress. Big goals or projects can takes years to complete. Measuring your progress along the way is a great way to keep your spirits high. Set short-term goals to keep you focused.

Most of us don’t live with our mothers any longer. It’s important to be able to motivate ourselves. The most successful people are able to harness the power of self-motivation. A higher level of motivation will ensure that your work is done well and as quickly as possible. It’s time to get busy!

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